Recall how you felt after you disclosed to someone else the feelings of pressure you were experiencing about an upcoming event. In line with our coaching experiences and what we’ve learned from evolutionary and social psychologists, we’re guessing you probably felt relieved or, as we say, depressurized. That’s because you executed this pressure solution:
Studies show the act of sharing distressful feelings reduces anxiety and stress. Sharing your feelings also allows you to examine them, challenge their reality, and view a pressure situation in a realistic manner.
Often, others will provide you with helpful suggestions and strategies that put things in perspective.
Next time you’re feeling the heat of an upcoming presentation, deadline, or important client meeting, share your feelings with a friend, colleague, or peer, or with your client or boss.
In a team meeting when it’s obvious everyone is under pressure, raise the issue with the group. Talk about it. We think you’ll find that the entire team will be relieved when it’s out in the open and people realize, It’s not just me.
There are plenty of studies to suggest that the act of verbally expressing your feelings, whether in a journal, to a tape recorder, or in an empty room, helps to diminish feelings of anxiety, stress, and pressure.
There is no shame in feeling pressure, but if you don’t share your feelings, there is a good chance pressure will shame you.
This is an excerpt from Performing Under Pressure.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
JP Pawliw-Fry is co-author of the New York Times bestselling book, Performing Under Pressure. He is keynote speaker, and the founder of IHHP, a global research and learning company that specializes in helping organizations and leaders leverage the science of emotional intelligence and performing under pressure. The research and strategies presented in the book, keynotes and in HHP’s training programs have been leveraged by numerous Fortune 100 companies, including long-term relationships with Johnson and Johnson, PWC, Goldman Sachs, HSBC as well as Olympic medal winning athletes. (Co-author: Hendrie Weisinger.)
Co-authored by our own J.P. Pawliw-Fry, Performing Under Pressure will introduce you to the concept of pressure management, offering the latest science on how your brain responds under pressure, and many empirically tested strategies to help you overcome the sabotaging effects of pressure. For this book, we undertook a multiyear study of over twelve thousand people to answer the question: what is it about the top 10 percent of these individuals that helps them handle pressure more effectively and be successful? The book has been featured in featured in Forbes, INC., The Financial Times, Training Magazine and many more, and is a NYT and Amazon bestseller. Order your copy on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Audible or Apple ibooks.
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